a) He is so romantic. Just as romantic as the vacuum he gave me for Valentine’s Day.
b) He is so fun and spontaneous, I love it!
c) He’s a dead man!
If the answer is a, consider yourself mildly lucky. If the answer is b, you two are on the same page and you just dodged a major bullet. If the answer, however, is c, you are … well ... a dead man.
I’m all for having fun on your wedding day. It is, after all, a party. If you want to get married in a balloon or while scuba diving, go for it! Have a blast. If that’s what both of you agree upon, it’s all good. However, having cake thrown into your face against your will is not all that much fun for most people – much less a bride.
There is a time and a place for a good food fight. Your wedding is probably not the right time, nor the right place. Unless your wedding theme is “The Three Stooges” and you guys have actually talked about it beforehand and are both into it. Gentlemen: If she says “no”, she actually means “no” and she’s not going to change her mind, nor will she find it funny on your big day.
If you’re still wondering why most brides find this not funny, kindly consider this. Imagine you just bought the big screen television you always dreamed of. You have the snacks for the big game ready, the beer is chilling in the fridge, and your buddies are on the couch when your fiancée throws a bowl of spaghetti with tomato sauce at the screen. Would you think “hey, that’s kinda fun” or “What in the world”? If it’s the latter, try to put yourself into her pretty shoes for a sec.
Your (now) wife has spent more money on the dress, hair, make-up, shoes, flowers than you spent on this TV. This is the day she has been planning for months (it may have been the day she has dreamed of since she has been a little girl), she has put so much time and effort into this (think invitations, seating chart, party favors, flower arrangements … just to name a few) and the last thing she wants to happen is for you to smash cake into her face in front of her family, her friends, and co-workers …. The only reason she is not kicking you at that point is probably the blurred cake vision.
If you want to throw cake into somebody’s face, why not gently feed your new bride a piece of cake and then throw the rest of it at your best man. He’s a guy, he’s your buddy, he’s most likely going to find it more amusing than you wife … and he won’t make you spend your wedding night on the couch.
Happy Couples cutting & feeding each other cake:
Two stories from recent weddings:
1) The groom who changed his mind.
During our first phone conversation, the groom mentioned that they had planned a fun and relaxed wedding and that there would be cake throwing. I was excited beyond belief - this would have been the first mutual agreed upon cake throwing fest of my career.
Note the word "would" in the previous sentence.
The groom saw his gorgeous bride and immediately dismissed any and all plans that involved cake in any function other than eating/feeding and it was the sweetest moment ever. I can't even say I was disappointed, it just wouldn't have fit the occasion.
2. The groom who did.
No cake smushing was mentioned in our wedding consultation so I didn't expect it. Neither did the bride.
The groom hit her "full frontal", sending cake over her face, her dress and everything in the vicinity. The bride was close to tears as the Maid of Honor was wiping her face and dress when the groom leaned over to me (I had stopped taking photos at this point as it was clear that the bride needed no documentation of this particular wedding moment) and asked "This was not a good idea, was it?" Nope, really wasn't.
Kingdom Wedding Photography
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